As we continue on the path of awakening our heart to others and offering loving-kindness,  the simple act of  “being there,” is profound.  Awareness. Presence. Being with. Sitting. Deep listening means to practice not preparing a response while listening. This requires humility. We are an observer instead of the problem solver. We may even think we know the answer and should help. SSSSHH. Be very very quiet. Just be there for that person with an open heart and loving intention. Looking into someones eyes can be very powerful. See them.

Life is full of speedy interactions and we are overwhelmed with sound and sights. There are times when we just need some space to be quiet with another caring soul. Recently I spent time with a friend who is working through some big stuff and I realized while being with them that what they needed most from me, was to just simply be there with no agenda, solutions, grand ideas or schemes to fix or solve. They just needed to feel the energy of another caring human.

In essence we are practicing with another how to stay in “the middle,” while at the same time allowing another to honestly feel the sadness or uncertainty, and to be okay with the experience of  “cool loneliness.” With cool loneliness we may feel like no one gets us, we really and truly are all alone and feeling  very uncomfortable and not sure what to do. It’s okay to be in that state now and again, and we can help others be there by reminding them of that through our quiet presence.

Slow down and help others slow down. Remember that when people are experiencing important personal growth or change, they have a period of unrest and unknowing before they gain clarity.  It might be a short time or a long time. Don’t judge. “The Beatles” wrote a song called “Let it Be,” with good reason:)

Notice your patterns. If you are always the fixer or rescuer try to step out of that role by listening without response. It might feel better for both parties. Whew, what a relief. Too many words or advice almost never create the powerful change people are seeking.

When walking walk. When listening listen. When sitting sit.

Peace,

Yoga Jane